Living in society where games permeate dating and relationship rather than romance and enjoyment, it can be very confusing to identify who the main character is and who the follower is in these games. ...more

Living in society where games permeate dating and relationship rather than romance and enjoyment, it can be very confusing to identify who the main character is and who the follower is in these games. Dating tips have become so confusing that it turned the process into ordeal. Pondering on how incredibly sophisticated dating games have become, it raises an ultimate question where does sex fit in all of this?

You see some people who are not having sex because they want to have a relationship.

So, they keep dating, hanging out together, and having fun in order to establish this safe and trustworthy foundation for their relationships. For the sake of this goal, they do not want to rush things and jump in to bed right away. Therefore, the dry spell kicks in. Some might even say that the sex lives of these people slump just as economic situation in 2007, resulting in the worst financial crisis since the Great Depression of the 1920s. This brings me to an off topic point. I find it paradoxical that it is commonly believed and even slightly scientifically supported that people in relationships tend to have more sex than singles. It makes perfect sense, on one hand. In relationship it is assumed that you have a partner at your disposal. On the other hand, more people than not will agree that often it is much more difficult and complicated to have sex in relationship than when single. I even remember one woman from Loveawake dating site say that if she had known that she was going to have sex only 2 times a month in her relationship, she would not have committed to one. I believe it is safe to say that marriage = love = sex is not a given. Not by any stretch. Occurrence and predominance of sexless relationships is on the sharp rise in North America. The two completely contradictory factors amalgam, resulting in puzzling and controversial conversations. Then, you see other people who are having mind-blowing sex hoping to turn it into relationship. Here is what cottons together!

A relationship without sex and sex without a relationship. Which one has a better shot at survival?

This question pompously has been strutting in my mind. I cannot help but wonder

which comes first, the proverbial chicken or the egg or the sex?

Does the relationship has mind-blowing sex because people continuously catch the relationship up to the sex or because they catch sex up to the relationship? Does the absence of one cause the disintegration of the other? Is it even possible to have both great relationship and mind-blowing sex? What suggestion from this episode resonates with you? How do/did you overcome the complexity of dating?less